I like writing about’Relationships’ because it is one of my favorite subjects. Honestly, today relationships have turned out to be similar to the’changing of clothing’ every day. The gist of all is: ‘the changing times’. However, if you aren’t able to foster or nurture one relationship, then you are not going to nurture the other. Though, there’s one exception in my opinion to that which I just stated; it’s not to target those relationships that are abusive, where the victim female or male is physically or mentally abused. We get to live life once, and it doesn’t mean that we cling to any connection that’s torturous in nature.
After conducting a brief research study about the topic, it’s realized that different writers have made varying observations regarding this topic. Each author expresses his/her own opinion as they perceive and define’relationship’.
Turn’on’ your Positive Psychology in Relationships
Writer Carr in’Positive Psychology: The Science of Happiness and Human Strengths’ said that positive psychology is linked to the positive emotions and affection in one’s relationship. When both the partners work through their struggles, and sort them out by communicating respectfully and forgiving each other’s mistakes; then they tend to obtain high levels of satisfaction in their relationship. If you love and care about your partner then it’s obvious you will work towards sharing a positive relationship.
Stop seeking Perfection on your partner
The understanding is important that we are human beings, and not one of us is perfect. Therefore, we cannot expect perfection in our partner. There’ll be certain behaviours that may irritate, or there may be some weaknesses that are too hard to take, but the bottom-line is you have to deal with those behaviors in a positive way without humiliating or demeaning your spouse. Rather than reacting impulsively to those behaviors, you can await the right time to talk with your partner about certain behaviours that seem annoying. The confrontational talk needs to be non-judgmental, so that your partner is a excellent receiver to your concerns.
Overcome the Temptation
As we are living in a new age it has become easy to switch partners or move on without giving a thought to your connection. The biggest temptation nowadays seems to be’gap-fillers’. Gap-fillers are those’so-called friends’ who make an entry on your life at just the wrong time. If you face challenging times in your marriage or dating relationship, then it is normal that you have a friend who acts as your spouse replacement. He/She is filled with all the great talks, assurances and might even want you to think that life is worth living, so why live with a spouse you are not happy with?
However, if you think really deep, it can be examined or assessed that if you cannot live or put up with one spouse, then there isn’t any guarantee that you are able to put up with a new partner. The beginning days of a new and rosy relationship might seem to be the best, but you never know when the identical relationship may turn to your own worst.
The best advice once your marriage or relationship isn’t working would be to wait patiently and to give yourself and partner the time to work out whether it is truly over, and for real reasons so that you don’t get an opportunity to repent in life for missing out on the very best.